Trauma-Informed Therapy for Couples and Relationships in NYC
Virtual therapy throughout New York and New Jersey.
Therapy for couples who are tired of feeling worn thin in their relationship.
Does this sound familiar?
"I love this person, so why does being close to them feel so difficult?"
"Something keeps going wrong in my relationships, and I don't understand why."
"I don't want to lose this relationship, but I don't know how to make it work."
"Why do small things between us become such big things?"
"Why do I pull away when I actually want closeness?"
"Why do I keep replaying the conversation in my head?"
"I want love to feel easier than this."
You don't have to keep figuring this out alone. Therapy can help you understand your relationships and create new ways of connecting with yourself and with the people you love.
Always trying to get it right and never feeling good enough is exhausting.
On the outside, you look like you have it together. But on the inside, something just doesn't feel quite right. You've been stuck in the same place in your relationship for so long that the relationship, itself, has become activating and you find yourself reaching for other things to soothe the pain. You may be gaining weight, lying awake at night just thinking about the relationship, or constantly doubting yourself and replaying conversations.
You’re waiting for that moment when someone pulls away. The fear that they will leave lingers in the back of your head like an itch you can’t scratch and you find yourself doing whatever it takes to maintain the connection. Trying to get it right and never feeling good enough.
And it keeps happening. Different person, same experience. Another relationship that leaves you asking the question: what is wrong with me?
But there's nothing wrong with you. You're just stuck in a cycle that no one ever taught you how to name, let alone change. It’s hard to not feel like everyone has figured out something you missed. If you are ready to look at what’s underneath the pain and create the fulfilling relationships you deserve, then you’re in the right place.
Hi, I’m Jem
I am so glad you found your way here.
I help adults and couples who are tired of feeling spent in their relationships get their life back. My approach goes deeper than the symptoms, in order to help you heal your relationships and feel close again.
Together, we can explore the cycle you keep getting pulled into: the moments when one person reaches and the other withdraws, when vulnerability turns into defensiveness, when old wounds get activated, or when you both end up feeling misunderstood, rejected, or alone.
My role isn’t to take sides, assign blame, or give you a formula for the “right” relationship. It’s to help you understand each other more deeply, communicate what is often difficult to say, repair what has been hurt, and create new ways of relating that feel more secure, intimate, and alive.
I blend together relational and systemic therapy, trauma and body-based work, mindfulness and breath work that draws from the advanced trainings and certifications that I've learned over years of practice and study. Rather than fitting your relationship into a particular framework, I bring these approaches together in response to who you both are, what's happening between you, and the patterns that may be getting in the way of the closeness you're both reaching for.
You want to deepen desire, intimacy, and romance
You're rebuilding trust and connection after relationship ruptures or infidelity
You're navigating what it means when emotional closeness and sexual desire don't always align
You're navigating complex relationships, communication, or non-traditional structures
You're ready to heal relationship patterns, attachment wounds, and trauma that keep repeating
You want to feel more connected, and to live from who you actually are
You're managing mental health and noticing how it shows up between you and the people you love
Who I work with:
You don’t have to figure it out all on your own anymore.
Therapy Services
Therapy for Couples
Couples therapy is a collaborative process of understanding what brings you together and what pulls you apart. A space to listen differently to each other and to yourselves.
Therapy for Trauma
Trauma doesn’t just live in the past, it shows up in your body, your relationships, your sense of safety. Together, we’ll work to ease shame and create a life that feels like yours.
Therapy for Polyamory
A space for the unique issues that can come up whether you’re in an established non-monogamous dynamic, or just starting to practice non-monogamy.
Therapy for Anxiety & Attachment
Heal the wounds that make love feel so painful. Whether you’re recovering from a painful relationship or something else, we’ll work together to heal wounds underneath it all.
Therapy for Infidelity
A structured program for couples who want to heal after an affair or relationship rupture. A space to repair, restore, and renew.
A structured program for couples who want to heal after an affair or relationship rupture. Repair. Restore. Renew.
Therapy for Depression & Disconnection
It can make even the people you love feel far away. This work looks at depression in the context of your relationships, not apart from them, so reconnecting with others becomes part of how you heal.
This all resonates, now what?
The next step is to reach out below for a free consult and see if it’s right for you.
We’ll start with a low-pressure conversation about what’s been coming up in your relationships and what you want to shift. You can ask questions, get a sense of how I work, and decide from there. There’s no commitment, pressure, or obligation. Just a conversation.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Starting therapy can come with lots of questions. Here you’ll find answers to some of the most common inquiries.
Still unsure about something? Reach out below for additional guidance or support.
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I offer virtual couples therapy for individuals 26 and older.
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While medication and symptom relief can be important parts of care, meaningful therapeutic work can also help you build resources that extend beyond the therapy room. It’s an investment in your quality of life, your relationships, and how you experience yourself and the world around you.
For this reason, I do not take insurance. This allows me to structure our work around your individual needs and therapeutic goals, rather than cater to the limitations that can accompany insurance-based care.
I’m happy to provide you with a superbill each month that you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement. I recommend contacting your insurance provider directly to ask about your out-of-network mental health benefits. Many of my clients are able to receive reimbursement through their plans though benefits are subject to change, at will, by the insurance companies.
Why you should consider working with an “out of network” therapist:
Greater flexibility in your care. Our work can be guided by your needs and progress, without relying on insurance authorization for each phase of treatment. Session frequency and duration will still be determined collaboratively based on your needs.
More personalized, intentional care. We can draw on a range of therapeutic approaches and tailor our work to your goals, experiences, and circumstances.
Greater privacy and control over your information. Out-of-network care can reduce the information shared with insurers for reimbursement purposes. However, submitting a superbill may require diagnostic and other identifying information, and confidentiality remains subject to applicable legal and ethical exceptions.
More transparency around costs. We can discuss fees and payment expectations directly, helping you plan for care and make informed decisions about continuing therapy.
A focus on your goals. Our work is guided by your lived experience, priorities, and therapeutic needs, rather than solely by what an insurance plan determines it will cover.
Ultimately, therapy is an investment in how you live, how you relate, and how you move through the challenges life brings. My goal is to offer thoughtful, individualized care that supports not only how you feel today, but also the life and relationships you want to build over time.
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Many clients report experiencing some level of relief and a greater sense of well being in 12 sessions. However, the timeline for healing from trauma varies greatly between individuals, typically based on complexity of the trauma, life circumstances, and individual resilience.
I will work at a pace that feels comfortable for you, and I am invested in creating space that lends itself to sustainable healing and recovery.
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While it is likely that you will experience some intensification of emotions or physical sensations as you process your trauma in counseling, that is a good sign. It means your body is starting to process and integrate repressed experiences.
My somatic approach to trauma treatment offers you tools for navigating challenging emotions and moving through pain towards a place of growth and healing.
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Sessions are typically 50 minutes long.
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We recommend weekly therapy, especially in the early stages of the therapy process. During therapy, you and your therapist will collaborate on any adjustments to your schedule that may be beneficial for you.
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We do our best to make therapy accessible to therapy seekers. Sliding scale is based off of income range and cost of living factors and discussed before the commencement of sessions and up to you to bring up.
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Clients often describe Jem as warm, direct, and engaged, with room for reflection and gentle challenge when needed.
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In our first session, we will review intake paperwork together. We will talk about how you are feeling about starting the process, and we will collaborate on what feels important to you. The first few sessions may feel like a bit of story telling to catch me up on your history. I also work intentionally to check in and make sure that our work is still feeling like a good fit for you.
