Anxiety & Attachment Therapy in NYC
Virtual therapy across New York and New Jersey.
Anxiety therapy focuses on more than just fear or nervousness. Anxiety becomes a constant undercurrent shaping how they think, and relate to the world. Therapy works at understanding it not as a flaw to eliminate, but as a pattern that developed for understandable reasons.
The mind that won't stop scanning, not just for what could go wrong at work or in the world, but for what could go wrong between you and the people you love:
A delayed text, reread five times.
A tone in someone's voice you can't stop replaying in your head.
Worry that started somewhere else in your life but somehow always finds its way back to your closest relationships.
Anxiety rarely stays contained to one area but for many people, it roots itself hardest in connection, because relationships are where the stakes feel highest. This work helps you understand what's actually driving the worry loop, including how it shows up physically, in a tight chest or a body that won't settle.
Therapy for anxiety isn't about fixing you. It's about building the kind of self-awareness and nervous system regulation that lets you move through anxiety with more ease, more clarity, and more room to trust yourself and your relationship. It’s about learning to tolerate some uncertainty rather than resolve it, and stop letting anxiety make decisions in your relationships that you wouldn't otherwise make.
Anxiety in relationships doesn’t always come from one obvious moment.
Types of anxiety therapy we might work through together:
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It is marked by chronic, excessive worry that can affect many areas of life, from relationships and work to health and daily decision-making. You might also experience:
Restlessness or feeling “on edge”
Muscle tension or physical discomfort
Trouble concentrating or sleeping
A sense that something bad might happen, even without a clear cause
In therapy, we gently explore the emotional and somatic roots of worry and help you develop tools to interrupt anxious thought patterns. We work relationally to co-create a sense of psychological safety, helping you feel more grounded and connected over time. Using mind-body strategies, we support you in building emotional resilience, softening self-judgment, and strengthening your ability to respond, not react, to life’s stressors.
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Panic Disorder involves repeated, unexpected panic attacks, often accompanied by intense fear, chest tightness, dizziness, shortness of breath, or a racing heart. Many people worry that these episodes are signs of something dangerous, which can lead to further avoidance or isolation.
Therapy offers a space to:
Identify and understand your panic triggers
Learn grounding techniques to reduce the intensity of panic attacks
Rebuild trust in your body and nervous system
Create a toolkit for responding to fear with more confidence
We’ll honor how panic may be linked to trauma or overwhelm in the nervous system. The therapeutic relationship itself becomes a steady anchor, offering co-regulation and support as you gradually work through fear and rebuild a sense of safety within.
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A fear that closeness itself isn't safe to trust. This can show up in relationships, work, or with yourself. You might asking yourself:
“Why do I feel emotionally exhausted after certain interactions?”
“Why do I struggle with relationships, boundaries, or self-worth?”
“Why can’t I stop thinking about what happened?”
“Why do I still feel anxious or on edge?”
Even brief moments of crisis or the layered impact of certain experiences can disrupt your sense of safety and trust in the world.
In trauma therapy, we help you:
Process the emotional aftermath of the event
Reconnect with your body and regulate your nervous system
Healing attachment wounds and building safer internal relationships
Increasing emotional regulation and self-compassion
Rediscovering parts of yourself that have long been in survival mode
This work takes time and you deserve space for that.
Jem Wong, LMFT
You deserve to get the help you need and to invest in yourself and your relationships. The therapy relationship is such an important part of the work; it's important to find the right fit. If you're curious, please reach out. We'll schedule a free consult to determine whether we're a good fit, and if not, I'll try to point you in the right direction.
My Blended Approach to Anxiety Therapy in NYC:
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Understand different sides of you in anxiety therapy. Like the part that’s always on high alert, or the part that tells you to dissociate. The work isn't about eliminating any of these parts, but getting to know them with curiosity and compassion, so your core Self can lead instead of any one part running the show alone.
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Trauma-focused therapy that identifies your body’s responses and may involve guided eye movements. We’ll notice your breathing, heart rate, and any areas of tension, and work to bring softness, curiosity, and understanding for your physical being. Over time, this can reduce the emotional intensity of the memory, allowing it to become something the person can remember without being retraumatized by it.
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Attachment-based approach that helps couples identify the negative cycle they keep getting pulled into — one person reaching, the other withdrawing — and understand the deeper attachment fears driving it. Rather than focusing on the surface argument, EFT works to access and reshape the underlying emotions, so partners can respond to what's actually happening between them and build a more secure, trusting bond.
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Practical tools for managing intense emotion, tolerating distress without making it worse, and reducing anxiety in relationships and social situations.
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Shifts the goal from eliminating anxiety to building a life that isn’t organized around avoiding it. Focuses on values, present-moment awareness, and learning to hold difficult thoughts without being controlled by them.