Couples Therapy
Conflict that feels repetitive is rarely about the surface topic, it's a nervous system pattern playing out in real time. We slow that pattern down until you can see it clearly, and build new ways of reaching for each other instead of away.
Couples Therapy in NYC
As a holistic relationship specialist working through an attachment and emotionally focused lens, I help couples understand the patterns underneath the conflict not just what you're arguing about, but the attachment fears and nervous system responses driving how you reach for, or pull away from, each other.
Conflict that feels repetitive is rarely about the surface topic; it's usually a cycle of protest and withdrawal playing out in real time. We slow that cycle down until you can see it clearly, and build new ways of reaching for each other instead of away.
Types Of Couples Therapy I Specialize In:
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Betrayal doesn't just break trust, it ruptures attachment security, the felt sense that your person is safe to turn to. We move through it at the pace it actually takes, rebuilding a secure bond where possible, or supporting you individually if that's the path forward.
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Attachment doesn't require monogamy to matter. Every relationship in a non-traditional structure still carries its own bond, its own attachment needs and fears. We work with the real shape of your relationships' communication, jealousy, and attachment as they actually exist, without defaulting to a monogamous framework.
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Before you build a life together, it helps to understand each other's attachment styles: how you each seek closeness, handle conflict, big topics, lifestyles, and respond under stress. This is a chance to build a secure foundation on purpose, rather than by accident.
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Desire is deeply tied to attachment security how safe you feel with your partner shapes how safe your body feels reaching for them. We create room to understand what's actually happening for you and your connection, without shame or a script for how it's "supposed" to look.